Change Your Story and Attract a Fabulous Future

Have you ever experienced real, transformative change? Did you notice how it impacted not just you but the people around you? Several years ago, I attended a Tony Robbins event called Unleash the Power Within (UPW). It was an incredibly powerful experience, especially for those facing life crises or feeling stuck. After the event, many of us stayed connected for a while, and I saw firsthand the profound changes people made. One woman returned home, filed for divorce, and completely transformed her life. Others went back to friends, spouses, or partners who were shocked by their new demeanor, even accusing them of joining a cult. Some old friends simply didn’t recognize them anymore.

One friend of mine was even told she was “too powerful,” and her husband asked her to leave.

I encountered similar reactions when I returned from UPW. I managed to increase my income by 90%. But I had seen these responses before—years earlier when my first wife and I, after saving for 12 years, built our dream home. A good friend, Mark, told me it was too lavish and said he couldn’t be friends with someone so extravagant. He never came around again.

Fast forward to Date with Destiny, another six-day event Tony Robbins offers. If you’ve attended a Robbins event, you know how active and dynamic they are. This time, my wife and I attended together, which meant we were on the same page. Early in the event, I noticed a man in his 50s wearing a red-checked flannel shirt, jeans, and work boots, standing with his hands in his pockets while everyone around him celebrated. He looked lost. I approached him and said, “Let me guess: your wife went to UPW, changed completely, and now you’re here to find the ‘Kool-Aid.’” He responded, “You’re damn right!” I told him, “You can get a full refund if you leave after the first day. But if you stay, you’ll either be celebrating with us or heading home. Give it a try!”

 A few hours later, as the teachings started to resonate, he realized there was no “Kool-Aid” and began enjoying the event.

Our friends and family have stories and visions of who we are. When we disrupt those long-held stories, they’re forced to see us in a new way. I lost some family connections when I made significant changes in my life. One cousin even asked, “Why are you so happy all of a sudden?”

When you change, the world around you changes. But there’s more:

People will see you differently and either accept or reject the new you.

When you live as your authentic self and succeed, you attract like-minded people. I’ve had clients ask, “Why do I always attract losers?” Once they discovered their worth, embraced their lovability, and became intentional about who they were, new and meaningful connections formed. Many found love and began living fulfilling relationships.

You will intimidate some people. Remember, your most powerful self is living your truth with intention. Stay on your path. Some people may leave and return later; others may move on for good.

Keep growing and contributing. You’ll be surprised at the impact you have on people you don’t even know. Being your best self daily expands your influence and life satisfaction. You’ll find peace in your strength, persistence, and faith in life, God, and opportunity.

If you’re considering working with a coach, I’m here for you. Not only will you experience life changes, but you’ll also resolve lingering relationships, find more peace, gain self-confidence, and develop greater patience and love.

Just saying.          Jack Stanley. B.C.C.