Cat Poop: The Crap We Bury in Our Souls

When Shame Takes Over:

When shame is the base of your identity, it is like HELP, I HAVE FALLEN DOWN AND CAN'T GET UP>. It is a sense of intense lack, self doubt and seeming no resolution.  When we first start working together, we quickly begin to look for the cat shit. The metaphor is: that when we take the crap that we have in life, and we say or think we have “dealt with it” but we really have just buried it in our minds and souls.  And this buried stuff seeps poison in our minds, souls and creates evermore shame. I explain that we will move to be more like dogs….. 

People with a shamed based identity may feel depressed, angry, self loathing, a strong sense of never enough, or never lovable and likely will never realize the core issue is shame. People with a shame based identity tend to keep people around them at the shallow level of relationship if at all. They can be the life of the party, but you will never see the “real them”. The idea that they often believe is: “if they know me, they will not like me” is prevalent in their thinking. 

Shame is the “hidden source” of these powerful emotions.  We have talked about what shame is in other blogs. The question becomes how do you deal with it. 

This is where being more like dogs comes to play. Unlike cats, when dogs poop, they smell it, others around them smell it maybe even taste it. And they literally move on. And the sun light gets on it and it becomes fertilizer. 

 Learning to recognize the roots of shame in our lives is the first step. Opening up our selves to letting it out, dealing with it can begin to take away the power of the triggers to stop the shame cycle.  There are several tools we use to help folks find peace in themselves, acceptance, and release from anger and self loathing and suddenly they become open to a much different life.  

Shame resides in all of us to some level. Toxic shame can bring pain to our lives and the people around us that seemingly has no end. The message is that there is real help! Real answers. You do not have to stay there. There is an antidote to shame. And it begins with breaking through to love and acceptance, digging out the shame you have planted in your soul and replacing it with the truth. And that I call the beginning of a beautiful life! 

You may think this sounds simple, it certainly is not. Working through the release of shame process is absolutely liberating.  Freedom is near….#stanlelycoaching. #beautiful-life.  Sign up for a free 1/2 hour session to see if you think this could help you.

  Jack Stanley B.C.C