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The Constant Demands of that Inner Voice!

Jack Stanley • Mar 07, 2023

3.5 Ways to Break the Limiting Patterns in Your Life and Have MORE Energy

You are sitting alone and the thoughts run.  For many of us in very short order we go to the things we are not.  We go to the things we did poorly.  It seems never to end.  For most of us we can find enough positive to make it through. So we are o.k. right? 

The truth is it takes energy to keep the self doubts, the limiting decisions in their place.  That energy use takes away from more important things that would allow us to grow and succeed rapidly.   What are some simple ways we can begin to break the patterns of thinking  about our limitations, worth, how much we can be loved, how successful we can be.  They are tied deep in our belief system, reinforced by story and story and story.

3.5 Ways to break free.

  1. When a limiting belief or thought comes to the surface, call it what is its.  I simply use my words.  "That's a lie". The truth is I am actually good at that.  We have beliefs in our conscious and unconscious that are simply not true. Remember  you can break them when you identify the thinking a call it out. 
  2. Ask better questions.  When something happens that triggers your negative thinking or simply engenders fear, anger or sadness, you might ask different questions Like:  What else can this mean?  or What if this is exactly where I am suppose to be? How can I grow  in this situation?
  3. Change your physiology.  Move, shake your body out.  Do an incantation.  Take action.  Progress will give you a boost of energy. 

3.5  Realize the truth:  Life is difficult.  That is true for everyone.  The folks on your social media that seem to have a great live, live in difficulty.  The reality is once you accept this as a fact your life will become easier, it eliminates the self doubt and the question of "Why me".  LIFE'S DIFFICULTIES ARE A PART OF THE JOURNEY , JUST LIKE LIFE'S GREAT TIMES. Difficulties promote growth. 


So next time something challenging happens realize you are up for the task of moving forward.  You are still alive in a great and wonderful and difficult world.  Taking action will make you a conqueror


       Jack Stanley B.C.C.

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