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Ingredients of a Beautiful Life

Jack Stanley BCC • May 04, 2022

Ingredients in a Beautiful Life.

Jim Carey has a few posts in YouTube, he postulates that he wished everyone could have success and money so they could find out it is not the answer.   What did he mean?  The folks advertising 10x income growth, or the testimonial of significant weight loss, and on and on.  Where do you really find the idea of a beautiful life.   First what are the attributes to a beautiful state or beautiful life.   For some it may be living on the ocean, or the mountains, or farming: growing your own food, or it may be getting away from some toxic influence in your life.  The truth is most people tend to repeat patterns.  It is commonly held that folks who win the lottery are not happier than they were before they won.  In fact it is often the opposite. 


So what is a beautiful state.  I would propose the ingredients of a beautiful state are:  Love, patience, peace,  kindness, perseverance, joy, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.   Think about it for just one minute.  These ingredients will serve you well regardless of your circumstances.  When Frankl wrote the book:Man's Search for Meaning, he concluded that the one thing that can not be taken from a human is the ability to choose ones reaction to what is happing to or for them. This is a very difficult thing to understand.  How do you find a beautiful state in a concentration camp.  It is as simple and as complex as knowing and becoming the ingredients of a beautiful state. 


Consider, walking in life with the ingredients fully in your mind heart and soul.   It engenders letting go of "how we think things have to be" and opens us to how things are.  If you live in the reality  of that, then the ability to influence the outside is increased,  by the lack of war against something, but by the desire to influence or move it forward.   Take some time and ask, Where is love in my life? Am I kind?  Do I persevere? Do I have joy? Do I live in goodness, or faithfulness, or with self control?


The ingredients are here.  But how do I get these into my life?  Is it meditation? Is it psychotherapy? Is it giving up on all my dreams?  We will discuss these one by one in the next few blog posts.  Because just to say they are important, does not tell us how to reach them.  Lets See How!  #liveabeautifulife #beautifullife

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